Tables turn, bridges burn, you live, and you learn.
Gone are the days where relationships were about growing old together, getting married or spending the lifetime. Modernization has turned old school love stories to Netflix and chill, tinder and flings. Now people get bored with each other so quickly, they get into relationships for all the wrong reasons. They have a hard time dealing with their own emotions, and the list goes on.
We all have witnessed failed relationships, and they’re just a part of our life and how they had a significant impact on us, whether positive or negative. But what matters the most is how those failed relationships made us the person we are today, how we do what we love and set our priorities without any limitation.
How we thought we would not survive without them and after months or years, but then we realize that what happened was right.
Situations, relationships, people, they come & go, but what stays with us are the memories and experiences. It is totally in our hands to get better or bitter. Here’s how failed relationships can be a blessing for you:
They Teach You to be Happy on Your Own
This is probably the biggest mistake we do in our lives, we attach our happiness to people, whether they are partners, parents or friends. Last-minute cancelled plans or not showing up when they promised, or they still have been talking to their ex when you told them that it upsets you. You see the pattern, and it’s only us put our happiness in their hands, their actions control our emotions.
But who gave them this much of power? Because we are afraid of being alone. Whereas what we do not realize is, when you spend some time by yourself and enjoy some time alone, the company becomes an option. We only need to find something that WE LOVE DOING ALONE. It could be joining a hobby class, learning a new skill or just travelling
You Discover What You’re Looking for in a Partner
How many times did we forgive people that we love for the mistakes they would not have been so forgiving if we would have done that? Situations, where we had to swallow our pride or where our self-respect was brutally hurt, and we chose to forgive. All just for the sake of the relationships, for the amount of time we have invested in it. But all of this, why? Because we loved them, even though we might criticize or pass on to suggestions to others saying that if we had been in your place, we would not have tolerated it. But it’s all fake, we suffer and accept the same things that we tell others to get rid off.
When we finally decide to see people for who they are and not, we want them to be; the scenario becomes pretty clear. So, the closures and endings make you understand how important it is to set boundaries. They make you aware of your own needs when it comes to a partner that leads you to find someone who’s right for you, mentally and emotionally.
I hope that all women and men out there who feel like they’re alone. Who has dealt with shit relationships fall in love with themselves and find someone who loves them more than eternity. <3